"The most important rule about getting along with your mate."
Scott Adams at The Dilbert Blog:
The biggest relationship mistake you can make is to assume that because you have some special training or knowledge on a topic, that your opinion should be extra important. You could be the world’s most respected expert on insects, for example, but if your mate insists that caterpillars grow into chipmunks, there will be no talking him or her out of it...(This works well if one partner doesn't care much...)
So forget about how much you know, or how smart you think you are, or how much extra information you might have recently collected. That will not help you. Instead, I offer you the only solution: The WCM Method.
WCM stands for Who Cares Most. If you want your relationship to have a chance, defer all decisions and interpretations of fact to the person who cares the most...
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Would like to know more about this method please.
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I'd prefer that my partner respect my talents (which she does).
I've seen a different version of this at play in the world. Let's say that you are an engineer who has built many dams. Because of this, you feel you're the smartest man in the world. So when the question of evolution versus creationism comes up, you say your bit. "It's creationism" and you expect everyone to come falling down because You Are the Engineer.
It often works like that and our country is falling apart academically because we don't put a stop to it.
I don't care how smart you think you are, no Human Being is infallible. When discussing any topic with a loved one the idea is to keep it friendly no matter how stupid they may sound (especially if the conversation is a public one.) I personally don't want my significant other sounding like a moron when talking about any subject, but if she is wrong about something, regardless who cares most, it's important for me to use tact when correcting her.
In any discussion of an "important" topic it is vital to be able to present hard evidence, regardless of who you're talking to. However, if that person doesn't "get it" or they don't really care, then there is no point in discussing it 'cause it might start an argument. Unless, of course, you LIKE arguing... ;^)
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